Later this month we will celebrate three years. Three years since our wedding day, and four years since we first met. Two, almost three houses later. 3 countries. 6 national parks. 9 US states.
Marriage is a strange thing. By strange I don’t mean bad – I just mean that it has changed my life. Actually, i’m safe in saying that it has changed both of our lives irrevocably.
Sometimes, it is not the decisions you come to that is ultimately important, just that you make it together. By doing do, you come to that which is ultimately important.
I told RM when we first met that I wasn’t sure I wanted to get married. The idea of trusting someone else and deciding that they were my person was a big decision — actually it is a big decision every day. I value my independence. I value only worrying about how I’ll cope and react and handle life. But, there’s a beauty in having a best friend who shares life with you, and who walks beside you good and bad – and who reminds you when the things you think are mundane and quotidian are in fact kind of a big deal!
Being accountable to each other isn’t always easy, just like marriage isn’t always easy. But, it feels like a journey worth taking even when it is hard. Especially the parts where we are able to encourage each others passions, hopes, dreams, and goals.
A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor – Franklin D. Roosevelt
We are early into this whole marriage thing: 3 years still counts as newlyweds, right? well, it does as far as i am concerned. We might know stuff about other things, but about marriage we are anything but experts. Every year we learn more about who we are as individuals and who we are together. We are not each others half, we are two wholes trying to figure out a relationship together.
In this family – we make decisions out of faith, not fear. We love best by challenging each other, encouraging each other, learning from each other, and laughing together — those are the good parts. More than that – we make better decisions with, and because of, each other. The saturday morning snuggles are the gravy (and i make pretty amazing gravy).
Finally, the best part of marriage is getting to spend everyday with my best friend!
We are Team Rabe. A little bit of a mess, completely imperfectly perfect.
Listening. Observing. Participating. Writing. Photographing. Reflecting.